There have been so many tragedies lately that are making many question: is the world ending?! From cyclone Idai in Mozambique, to the Ethiopian airways crash, to the attack on a mosque in New Zealand…it goes on and on. We might get all those quack pastors saying that everyone must repent and give to ‘the church’ everything they own for the end of time is here. Or corrupt politicians giving their latest illegal acquisitions from tax money to charity in an effort to ‘make up’ for all the evil they have done, hoping to get a glimpse of heaven. Well, nobody really knows when the world will end (& for those who believe in reincarnation, nobody really knows when your reincarnation will be). However, sometimes tragedies remind us that our life could end at any time and so we need to live life to the fullest!
MT 13:32: “But about that day or hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.”
We tend to spend our lives chasing after material things yet material wealth is not something that people chase on their death bed. Nobody will bury you in your range rover or your 3-floor mansion. Here are some things to consider doing to live a more fulfilling life:
Live for you!
Stop trying to please others and do what makes you happy! You will never be able to please everyone anyway!Bonnie Ware described this as a “surprisingly common” regret voiced by terminal patients, in her book “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.” “Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice … Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”
So wear that bright yellow flamboyant dress that you have been afraid to wear to the office because it is too bright. Or that expensive Italian taxedo that you have been saving to wear to your next cocktail dinner.
Do all those things your heart truly desires despite what people might say about you.
Spend quality time with your loved ones
There is a difference between spending time & spending quality time with your loved ones. Quality time requires your full attention, your words of encouragement, your shoulder to lean on…your best efforts. It means that if you have only 1 hour to spend with your loved ones in a day, you have to make that one hour count! & though you should express anything unpleasant that you may not like, focus more on the positive, & end that precious hour on a high note. Hug them a little tighter & kiss them a little longer than usual.
Express your feelings honestly
Convey all those feelings or words that have been unsaid for years.
Could there be someone who you truly love and have been afraid of telling them how you feel? They might already be taken, & there may not be any chance of being with them, but you should tell them how you feel to get it off your chest. Tell them you regret letting them go & tell them how they are amazing. You’ll be surprised they might have been hoping for that closure for a long time, perhaps having been unable to understand why you let them go.
Is there anyone who has hurt your feelings in the past? Or maybe they just keep hurting your feelings everyday when they say hurtful things about you?Tell them what it is they do or say that hurts you. Express yourself fully and honestly with them.
Is there someone in your life who you feel is on the wrong path? Perhaps a change in behaviour or career would be beneficial to them? Tell them!
What is the use of holding back your feelings? The worst thing that could happen is that you get a bad reaction which you will probably get over sooner than later.
Stop postponing that one thing that you really want to do
Make the proposal
Start a family
Take those art lessons and put up your paintings on your walls for your children to see!
Take those private flying lessons and fly your love to a holiday destination!
Eat sushi, snails, fried cockroaches…all the acclaimed ‘delicacies’ you have been scared of trying.
Travel, go bungee jumping & sky diving…
Whatever it is you have been saying “I really want to do that one day”. That day is today!