R.Kelly’s song ‘When a Woman Loves’ has so much truth to it.
A woman’s love is extremely powerful and unconditional when it is true. A woman in love can do anything for her man. She will do whatever makes her partner smile. She will cook, clean, do laundry and buy groceries. She will sacrifice her time to see him and spend her money to look good for him. She will protect his reputation even when his ‘haters’ may be right and run to his side when he needs a shoulder to lean on.
Having dated a foreigner I used to say that the moment my boyfriend chose to leave the country I would not hesitate to pack my bags and join him regardless of how well I was doing here in Kenya.
What happens in such scenarios is that at first the guy will appreciate everything his lady does for him and proclaim to the world about how lucky he is to have her. However, there is a danger of claiming wife duties before one is actually a wife. A high chance that the guy will become too used to being done for everything and start taking things for granted. The dirty socks she used to wash will now be thrown at the door the moment he comes in. The groceries in the fridge will always be incomplete because he knows she will buy what is missing.
This is why I think that it is very important for there to be a difference between being a wife and being a girlfriend. It is good to give 100% in your relationships but there need to be some advantages that the man only gets after he has put a ring on it!