How sex keeps marriages alive

“Sex is the MAIN thing that keeps married couples together when the going gets tough”…these words were uttered by a married 40 year old man.

Sex, GOOD sex is one of the most powerful tools in the world. It has ruined kings. & it makes women weak too because believe it or not, women love sex more than men(when it’s done right). It is extremely difficult for any woman to leave a relationship where the sex is good. I’ll give you a scenario based on a real person, she is a manager in a top company. She makes good money which enables her to live in a fancy house, drive a nice car…you know, all these material things that make people feel like they are ‘successful’. Anyway, her man, is quite the opposite. He doesn’t work. She maintains him. & she has no issue with it because he is good in bed. Actually, she is more like his slave. She does anything and everything he asks her to.

For men, their pleasure is highly dependent on the satisfaction they give the woman. That is why if a man has sex for 2 hours (Ok is it possible to be this long? I was just exaggerating. But really , is it?)..anyway I was saying, if a man, a good lover, has sex for 2 hours and he does not cum he will be OK as long as his lady is satisfied.  The ego of a man makes him more proud about satisfying rather than being satisfied.

Now, much as sex is very important there are people who will marry a ‘less capable lover’ because marriage is about a lot more than sex. Like if the great lover is not what one pictures in a life partner: not ambitious enough, not kind…they make pick the less capable one. But still sex remains a very important department in marriage and this person might occasionally go looking for ‘the number 1 performer’ to give them a good time. This is the ugly truth.

So how do we make our relationship strong and remain faithful using something more powerful than good sex? Well, there’s no certain answer for this, but for a long time religion has helped many people to stay faithful. Religion restricts unfaithful activity with the threat of hell. Other than that, churches have couple counselling and mentors who often guide people to remain in the path of God. Faith and practice of religious teachings helps many couples maintain strong relationships.



  1. Sex is the backbone and cornerstone of relationships and marriage in this case. it is however very rare to find a relationship that is going through thick and thin but with great sex. In a good number of cases, Men who provide good sex to their partners tend to take advantage of their prowess in enslaving their partners,creating a mountain of demands knowing very well their female partners are not about to leave them. a few of them actually get violent occasionally and patch up quickly through sexual “escapades”. What i am not sure is whether someone should concentrate on elevating their sexual experience or work on other areas of marriage that would most likely rekindle the sexual department. Men with natural sexual prowess are the happiest lot.

    1. We dont think it makes sense for someone to bring only 1 thing to the table in a marriage: good sex. It’s nice, but it’s just not enough. There are other guys out there who will bring that and much more to the table. Those are the men we refer to as ‘good husbands’. Nobody should be so desperate as to stay with a man who abuses them simple because he is good in the sack. Skills in the bedroom is something that can be acquired, one doesn’t need to have natural prowess.

      1. Makes sense, although I also think such complete men are rare on this planet and a dream of every woman. The place of sex in marriage is critical. You could bring 1000 things on the table but without this critical thing all may end up useless. Men with Natural sexual prowess in my definition are those who despite the health of the relationship,can still perform. When the health of the relationship is directly proportional to performance which is the case in most relationships, Men must be taught how to go about.

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